Hello,

Sometimes, the only thing you know for certain is what you don’t want. Yet often, Maria, that’s enough to go on. – The Universe

I received this in my mailbox this morning and I thought, funny, this is exactly what I keep saying: All I know is what I don’t want. My parents don’t seem to think it’s cute, but they’re parents and most times they think their way of viewing things and that the path that they’ve taken for their lives is indeed the only right one. In many ways, I want to take a different path from the one my parents took, and in other ways I want to follow theirs- and that’s what makes me an interesting, determined individual, yet they keep thinking I’ve wandered off too far from what they deem as acceptable. The most frustrating part is, I no longer care that much, I want to do the things that make me happy, in my own time. I’ve spent way too much time trying to be the perfect daughter to them, the one who doesn’t defy them, the one that makes them proud…always craving that acceptance, but lately (I’m using this term loosely, because it has been slowly happening for the past two years, growing steadier and stronger with each day and each decision I make) I’ve been more determined about forging my own path, my own way. This has been extremely difficult because I still live with them, in some ways I still depend on them * especially in the financial aspect- to some extent*.  I’m feeling more and more determined to become independent this year.

I just noticed that this post went completely different from what I initially wanted to write about, but that’s great. I’ve been trying to use this blog as a way to find my inner voice again, and it’s working. I knew this was kind of bothering me, but I didn’t know to what extent.

Thank you for reading my messy rants,

-M

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Forgiving is Part of Living

I don’t ever wish anyone harm or pain. If they hurt me, I never wish to hurt them back- I just wish they hadn’t hurt me in the first place. But, you can’t change the past and you certainly can’t (or shouldn’t) make other people’s decisions, you can only act now and it is up to you whether you will let resentment and attachment to past wounds, ruin your present and future. Remember, forgiveness is not something you do for those who hurt you, but something you do because you don’t deserve to live with the bitter taste of resentment. It certainly is not the funnest or easiest to do, but once we remember the fact that others have had to forgive us too, we also acknowledge our own mortality and flaws and feel grateful about the fact that others were merciful towards us.

Something that usually helps as well, is to remember that I’m not aiming towards perfection, but towards excellence and in my book, excellent human beings are kind and caring and empathetic and all those are traits of people who forgive…or is it the other way round?

Wink wink,

-M